How to deal with 13-30 years old who are going off the rails.

Here’s what the short term structure to handling the matter looks like:

Recurring patterns report. This will tell us the common reactions this person is showing and their style to handle being challenged.
Parking the past to one side to establish the need for short term wins. (Clearing the past is something that happens later because achieving forgiveness will only come from a place of self satisfaction.)
Prioritising mental health. Most commonly done through building healthy friendships.
Future scoping. Monitoring this to make sure their excuses are not creeping back into their conversions on this topic.

Once the steps in the short term are ticked off, a relationship is established with the person and revisiting underlying issues we feel that’ll come back and then the person can be cleared.

Remember when trying to help a 13-30 year old you’ll fall into the trap of making them feel challenged. Once that happens your influence over them may fade so if you’re left feeling ‘how can I get them to appreciate me?’ at this point you follow the 5 steps or get the right help in order to make sure these are applied.

Feel free to reach out if you have further questions and I hope this helps. Many times I’ve come across cases that could have been cleared years ago but we don’t talk about solutions enough therefore families get left in long-term misery.

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